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Meaning: When A Partner Disrespects You With Jokes
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Meaning: When A Partner Disrespects You With Jokes
Many times, we always say a couple shares a good sense of humour, where they call each other names, to entertain each other, and others, but they always keep going, to outshine or continually entertain their viewers. But amid that entertainment target, these couples always take it a step higher, and hit each other where it hurts.
Viewers always warn these couples against these behaviours, but they always keep going, because they need to maintain their views. People smashing cake on the faces of unsuspecting partners to entertain themselves with their revenge.
I remember coming across the video of the now-divorced Khalid and Salama’s YouTube video one day, when they were saying awful things about each other, and passing them as jokes, with one constantly trying to outdo the other.
They hit below the belt, and it was awkward to watch even for me. I remember reading the comments and noticed that I wasn’t the only one who didn’t find it funny. A few others warned them of this type of behaviour, and over the months, I realised that they had divorced each other.
This former couple went another. The same thing happened to Justin and Korra, and a few others who are now divorced. But how do you know that all is not well with a couple, even if they haven’t informed or announced it yet?
The disrespect can be seen buried deep inside a joke. These days, people say whatever they want to say, and based on your reaction to it, they decide if it is a joke or an actual expression from the bottom of their heart. It is even worse for couples who are trying to garner views on social media. The backhanded sarcasm, in a form of humour, is nothing close to a joke.
Once your mind picks it up, don’t make it fr you being too sensitive to a joke, because it is not exactly only a joke. A person is dropping signs and clues for you to pick up, because they are scared of your reaction or the result of an outburst.
So to avoid a fight back, they put it in the form of a joke, hoping you don’t pick it up, and even when you do, you won’t be triggered by it, because when you do, you will be tagged with the problem. “I was only joking”, they always say.
You know that shouldn’t be in the category of a joke, and not sure where it is even coming from. The smile that accompanies it doesn’t even make it a good joke, especially if there are witnesses. They do what they want, but manipulate you not to react, because they have said it is a joke.
The moment a joke from your partner leaves you wondering, rather than laughing, then something is up with it, and you just might be on to something.
But when you accept it is the joke they claim that it is, you stay quiet, wondering, you dismiss it and tell yourself that you are the one overthinking it, or you laugh to conceal the awkwardness.
These behaviours are what make your potential enemy happy. Your partner hopes to say what’s on their mind, claims it is a joke to stop your reaction, which makes them comfortable to continue this behaviour, which ultimately shows their resentment towards you.
If ever you notice this behaviour, then that is the sign you would look back on, and wonder if you noticed any change in his behaviour.
While you were looking for outright outbursts of anger and hate towards you in the relationship, you overlooked the obvious behaviours, but they convinced you that it was a joke, and you agreed to it.
However, when you hold your ground and question their reason why a speech/utterance or an action was targeted at you,
You just might force their true intention out; they tell you hurtful things while justifying their behaviour, and they blame everyone but themselves.
If you don’t know that stuff, you just fall for it, not knowing that your replacement is now enjoying their peaceful and nice side,
while you are now being made uncomfortable so that you can initiate the end of the relationship, rather than them. At this point, your choice matters a lot.
Do you want to say back and force the continuation of the relationship, or will you call it a day, and just end the charade, where you either agreed with him intentionally that this is indeed a harmless joke, or a good sign that all good things come to an end?
Conclusion
Know where the boundary of a joke ends in your relationship, so you can know when something else has taken the place of this so-called joke. And spot when your so-called passive partner has crossed the thin line.
When this milestone has been attained, a man being passively disrespectful to you, there is almost nothing to do to redeem the relationship, especially from his end, because if he wanted to talk to out and fix the problem, we would have done it.
But instead, he chose to indirectly make you uninterested and then make the first move, which then vindicates him, because he’ll say you chose to leave. When this happens, it could be that the man is afraid of what might come out of the breakup if he initiated it.
So he tries to make you initiate it, and free him. In cases like this, he is either in need of the Lady’s family’s wealth and connection, or he benefits from being with her,
through her social strata, her fame or her reputation. Let us all notice when a change has taken place, when a love has gone sour, when a partner is acting suspicious.
