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The Meaning Of Cheating With One Person For Years
The Meaning Of Cheating With One Person For Years
When people refer to a cheat, they always get the picture of a person who feels the need to always talk to everyone they find attractive. There’s that weird comfort women get when it is in this state.
But the moment it becomes a particular person that their partner is cheating with, over the years, it slightly becomes more serious. It becomes a little more concerning.
While some people feel like cheating is cheating, and the number of times or the way it is done doesn’t make any difference, others feel like they need the details of the cheating to conclude their partner.
Now for the ones who feel slightly confused with why this have to care about the details, rather than just refer to it as “all cheating are the same”. Allow me to help you understand the point.
Before I commence, this write-up is in no way excusing cheating and all that it brings, but rather, it is being done to give a better understanding of the psychology that comes with the two types.
Cheating is hurtful, and in the current society, it seems like the level of loyalty people have to give drops every day, so many people have experienced, if not still experiencing it, or are about to experience it.
While many people give different reasons why they cheated on someone, one thing seems sure in all of it. More attention is being paid to the details of the cheating, especially if it is constantly done with one person.
Skin, the thought-provoking questions come in: What exactly does it mean when your partner is only cheering in you with one person for years? What does it mean for your relationship and the people in it?
Let us quickly tear the thought apart, its motive and consequences. Psychological research has shown that people who were involved in a long-term infidelity with someone didn’t do it for the physical attraction of their infidelity partner.
It is prisoners for their initial partner, because this here, has far gone beyond mere lust or physical attraction. It is not about liposuction or BBL.
The most common outcome that has been gotten, based on research, is that the cheating person was in search of a deep emotional connection outside of their primary relationship.
Now, people try to analyse the genders and their psychology behind cheating, like saying a lady will not likely cheat on you with a person she likes. At the same time, men can do it with just about anyone; this will be analysed in a different post, but for now, let us go into a quick detail.
A woman can easily cheat, but before the act, she must have passively and emotionally detached herself from her primary relationship, especially if she is being neglected in her primary relationship.
So for her, it might have started from a simple chat, a person on the other side of the phone was listening to vent about her primary relationship, all the wrongs that were done to her.
She quickly gets used to it and attaches to that listening ear, and from then on, it becomes a full-blown relationship, causing the primary relationship to suffer loss.
A woman immediately shifts her attention and desires to the person who makes her feel seen, heard, and special. If this is not from her primary relationship, then she will make that new one her primary relationship, because every woman tilts towards security and comfort.
1. The Consequences of Long-Term Infidelity
Unlike the regular cheating that could come from an individual being randy, the consequences of a person cheating with one person for years is that the other partner being cheated on will be so hurt and shocked and experience anger, sadness, and absolute betrayal.
When a person loses the loyalty they initially had in the relationship, they will struggle to reinstate that loyalty, and that will not go unnoticed. It is even impossible in some cases if the help of a professional wasn’t used, and this will alter the relationship forever.
In other words, when a relationship has one of its members constantly cheating with a particular person, then it is seemingly the end of the primary relationship if that partner is a female.
It brings the feeling of guilt at first for the person cheating, feeling bad for betraying their primary partner, before an absence of guilt takes over subsequently.
For those people whose conscience hasn’t been completely dampened, they feel guilt and shame, and sometimes anxiety, for karma coming back to bite them.
There is also the saying that someone who cheats will always cheat. So this further puts them deep into the lies and guilt. People who know them will always be apprehensive to age them because they now have a reputation of cheating.
They can easily lie and manipulate people they are in a relationship with since they have mastered the act from years of constant practice and because they can function properly in their mistrust and dishonesty, which they use to cover up the secrets.
Furthermore, people have been found to cheat because they grew up in a society where this has been made to seem okay.
For this reason, they lack emotional intimacy and also lack the ability to have an intelligent conversation to discuss their challenges in a relationship, which will help with corrective acts and adjustments.
They act like they are okay with everything, but they are not. So they avoid the conversation, but instead they go to hurt the person behind their backs, because they are under the societal pressure to maintain a relationship standard.
This is common in countries or regions where same sex relationships are prohibited. People tend to get married to the opposite sex but maintain a long-lasting, yet hidden, relationship with the person they truly love. This same example was the actual case of the late Diana and then Prince Charles, now King Charles.
He maintained the public eye, but he put up with his marriage to Diane while he cheated with Camilla. This was the one thing that shattered the young Diana’s heart.
So the person cheating feels they are protecting the primary partner from heart. but when the truth is out, you realise it was infact a selfish choice.
Conclusion
Many seek to get to the bottom. For some who already know what this means. The consequences range from heartbreak.
We can gain a deeper understanding of this particular type of cheating despite the vast knowledge of what cheating itself is. It has a unique set of consequences, which should be understood before it is considered by the individuals.
Ultimately, the meaning of cheating with one person for years is unique to each individual and situation.
However, by acknowledging the complexity of this issue and engaging in open, honest dialogue, we can work towards creating a culture of empathy, understanding, and respect for all individuals, regardless of their relationship choices.
Be bold enough to end things with your primary partner before going into something new. Don’t let selfishness take over your conscience while enjoying the thrill of hiding things from someone you claim to hold dear.
