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What It Means Whenever Commitment Brings You Relief
What It Means Whenever Commitment Brings You Relief
Whenever we think of a relationship, we think of happiness, compatibility, and love. We think of a soulmate and lovey-dovey. People choose a person, and they feel they must show off to the world whom they have chosen and identified with. They list after no one else and just find their everything in the one they have chosen.
The opposite of this is, having a person to feel a void, while you wait for the right person to come along. When the person you are keeping as a rain day partner, finally realises ans begs you to see them as the one, you either end it with them, or do as they have asked you, out of pity.
Now, this post is for the people who have been used to filling a void, the people who are being managed in a relationship. The people whose partners remind them that they are not the ideal person for them, but they are staying with them because they can cook, clean, or even respectful. They are the ones this has been made for.
Rather than be excited with the person they are dating, they are constantly living in fear of a breakup. What if he finds the one today? I will have to vacate my position for the right girl to fill it. When you have to accept that you are not the girl for him, you stay and hope he changes his mind, yet he is actively searching for your replacement.
Some people say that love can make people do things, and I say it isn’t just love, desperation, or the inability to be alone. Some people can’t be alone; they must always have a man by their side, or they will go into depression.
When you find yourself in this situation and you would rather be a side chic to a single man, because he boldy tells you that you are not the one he hopes to end up with, but you are sexuslly active with him, going hard to impress him with gifts and love, hoping that one day he would wake up and find out that you are the one he should be loving. You are even willing to make him see that, so you try to prove it to him.
There is something wrong with the picture. When a man categorically tells you that he is not hoping to end up with you, so he is looking for the woman of his dreams, while being in a fill blown relationship with you, you’re are cooking and cleaning and taking good care of a man who doesn’t even claim you in public, then sis, please detach yourself from that situationship.
He may never come to the realisation that you are the one, and even if he does, he will try out his luck before settling. If ever he chooses you, then he is settling. You will know it, and he will also know it.
He will spend the rest of his life making it known to you, and you will spend the rest of your life thanking him for it. Thanking him for choosing you over the rest. Even when he cheats, he will do it with impunity because he settled for you to make you happy, so you have to overlook his bad behaviours just like he overlooked your imperfections and settled for you.
You might be in denial that you are not in this category, but when you are all alone with your lover, what does he tell you? How does he act towards you? How important are you to him? Does he enthusiastically show you off to the world? Answers these questions and find the truth from them.
Conclusion
Whenever a partner is treating you like. Second class citizen in a relationship, he first of starts from your mind. He makes it clear to you that he is better than you, and he is looking for a person better than what he settled for, and that is you.
While people go out on dates and events with their sugnifxnst other, you’re always made to be home, doing chores ans impressing him, while he is very reluctant to show you off, to introduce you to people he respects and admires, to keep you indoors, because he tells you that he is not ready.
He is not willing to be seen with you. He doesn’t say it like it is, so he devises means to do it. You are now left battling your insecurity complex, feeling like you will never find anyone as good as him, you may never be happy except with him, and you may never stand him being with someone else.
If ever you find yourself being relieved, rather than happy, whenever he chooses to be with you, then Sis, I hate to break it to you, but you are a spare partner in this relationship. Do either do the needful, of stay back and hope to change him, or your lives will be big enough for the both of you.
